You’ll Do Anything for Him: Knowing Healthy Relationships

by Blog Contributor | July 25, 2023 | Relationships | 0

You’ll Do Anything for Him by Maureen E. Hosier gives readers a spirited look at knowing healthy relationships and looking at them from a new perspective.

You’ll Do Anything for Him by Maureen E. Hosier

Relationship dynamics improve when all parties involved get a chance to know a little more about themselves and each other. Learning what makes your significant other tick and why you want to please them and vice-versa is extremely beneficial to establishing a long-lasting relationship. Simply continuing a relationship without proper introspection can be quite damaging in the long term since you won’t have the opportunity to learn what skills are required to make the relationship work. When you are like that, you are also burying your authentic self and becoming quite dependent on what the relationship brings you, whether it is physical or psychological satisfaction. You need to be looking inwardly to become a better version of yourself.

That is why knowing healthy relationships and how they work is important. In You’ll Do Anything for Him, author and psychologist Maureen E. Hosier explores precisely that and more. 

There is no such thing as a “proper” relationship. There are only characteristics that exist but manifest differently from example to example. For people to start knowing healthy relationships, there has to be a redefinition of how relationships are, especially when you learn more about yourself. 

Set aside what is “traditional” and go for deeper comprehension and innovation. 

You’ll soon know that there is much more to being with someone than what you were led to believe!

Knowing Problematic Relationships

Before you can know what healthy relationships are, you must first learn their antithesis. Relationships are not static entities but extremely dynamic ones that change and shift over time, reacting to whatever stimuli it meets. Of course, relationships can’t be a hundred-percent healthy all the time, but it is how one deals with that that makes the difference. Relationships are bad when the bad traits heavily outweigh the good ones, just to put it simply.

Here are some red flags you might look out for:

• There is an attempt to police your behavior. This is especially a bad case when they justify it by saying that what you are doing is “bad” or “embarrassing” to them.
• When something bad happens, regardless of who caused it, they are prone to avoid you without warning.
• They are extremely reluctant to share any opinion or idea with you, and they never ask for yours or are dismayed when you utter them.
• Who you interact with and how you dress are major points of frustration for them, especially jarring when it was this version that made them like you in the first place.
• Spending time with them becomes an obligation, and making them happy trumps your own feelings.
• Every time there is a conflict, it always seems like you are getting the shorter end of the stick, and you are never the victim.
• Privacy is more or less non-existent, and there is a pervasive feeling that every detail of one’s life should be revealed, regardless of the relevancy.
• Communication is extremely bad, running from either complete silence to yelling matches. 
• Resources are not apportioned properly, with one party holding access to them, including money, food, and transportation.

Knowing Healthy Relationships

As mentioned above, there is no clear and concrete definition of what a good relationship is, but there are key traits that you can look out for to help you distinguish between healthy and bad relationships. Knowing healthy relationships means knowing what to be cognizant of:

• There is a warm sense of trust among all parties that seems like they can be honest with them about anything and everything.
• When problems occur, they are always discussed properly, and finding solutions does not rely solely on one party.
• Great care and respect are given to everyone’s decisions and predilections. There is no such thing as a “taboo” unless jointly decided upon.
• There is an obvious affection between everyone, and every proposition is taken seriously without hurtful jest.
• All parties are always open to communication, and if otherwise, there is always notice or warning given.
• There is a clear relationship of reciprocity. This does not mean that when one buys you a flower, you buy them one too, but that something of equal value is given back.