My Alcoholic My Love discusses alcohol use disorder, alcohol dependence, is one of the most common addictions individuals struggle with.
Alcoholism wreaks havoc on an individual’s personal life, but also it affects dramatically every single relationship they are a part of. Perhaps, the most detrimental and significant impacts come from partnership, intimacy, and marriage. Alcohol destroys many romantic relationships, results in estranged marriages, and causes a massive discourse between families. From a lack of communication, intimacy issues, and mistrust to abuse, adverse effects on young kids, and lack of emotional availability to financial burden, alcohol abuse in a romantic relationship can seriously affect both partners, their kids, and other family members. The book My Alcoholic My Love features these realities.
The effect of alcoholism on intimacy and relationships is widespread and touches on various distinct areas of intimate affairs. The influence of heavy drinking on relationships can be harmful. The first area that is commonly affected is intimacy.
Alcoholism is linked to codependency in relationships and abusive behavior, both verbally and physically. Deterioration in married or unmarried couples often stems from arguments, financial troubles, acts of infidelity, or, worse, domestic violence. Alcoholism also decreases sex drive, bringing even more problems into an already strained relationship and eventually leading to divorce.
What is the book all about?
Margaret Moschak’s “My Alcoholic, My Love” is a touching memoir of an alcoholic husband, addiction, family, and faith in oneself and God. The book details a compelling journey of escaping the destruction of alcohol in their home and transforming her family’s life.
To save your family and yourself from the destruction the alcoholic brings to your life, you must turn away and learn how to take care of yourself and your loved ones. This is not easy. Most of us have been raised to love and care for the people in our lives. To break this tradition is heart-wrenching and nearly impossible. Few can do it alone, and the author found the Al-Anon organization of tremendous help. Here are the author’s struggles as she battled to find her way to a new satisfying life for herself and her children.
“I will not go down the rabbit hole with you.”
After hours of ugly attacks by my husband on me.
“I am delighted I chose to live where I can see that somewhere else in the world, life is going on.”
Separating from my husband and desperately alone in my apartment, with a busy highway running right outside.
“I am impaled by my alcoholic and must move on.”
I realized I could not live with him but had to move to another city where he could not be in my life easily.
Margaret Jackson Moschak has spent most of her life studying people – whether employed as a secretary in a welfare office, teaching in high school, encouraging young students to love reading, working in local politics, or managing an art exhibiting group and always searching out why people interact as they do with one another. Ms. Moschak earned an M.A. at the State University of New York at Albany.
Part of an extended family in northern New York, she now lives in Ithaca, New York, where she is a Taoist Tai Chi instructor. She has five grandchildren from her children of three sons and a daughter.
If you are one of those living with an alcoholic partner, you have probably experienced many different emotions and faced many challenges. At present, you may be exhausted from having to pick up more responsibilities, terrified about the future and health of everyone in your household, as well as angry and sad about the situation you are presently living in.
Dealing with a partner who is alcoholic and coping with their alcoholic behaviors and tendencies can significantly impact a person’s life.